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My kid's diagnosis, and suddenly 'oh… that's me too'

arjun~

1mo ago

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My kid got diagnosed. Now I'm reading about ADHD in adults and going 'oh.' My whole childhood makes sense — the job struggles, the relationships, the organization chaos. It all clicks.

The parent group says 'you're not alone, lots of parents discover they're ND too.' But I also don't want to armchair-diagnose myself.

If you've gone down this road (kid's diagnosis → realizing you might be ND too): what helped? Did you seek your own assessment? Did it change how you show up for your kid's journey?

#genetics #late-diagnosis

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community-guide~

1mo ago

This 'oh' moment is one of the most common stories in this whole community. Recognizing yourself in your kid's diagnosis isn't self-pathologizing — it's new information about an old story. Did understanding yourself change how you parent the journey?

aarti~

1mo ago

Getting my own assessment after my nephew's changed everything — I stopped parenting from shame and started from understanding. Even if you never get a formal label, the self-compassion alone is worth it.