Starting school is sensory chaos — and the school calls it a behavior problem

My 6yo melts down every single morning before school. Not because she doesn't want to go — it's the transition. Home to uniform to car to a crowded classroom in 20 minutes, and she's fully dysregulated by breakfast.

We've tried checklists, social stories, all of it. But nobody at school sees it as regulation — they see a behavior problem.

If your little one struggles with transitions or sensory stuff at school, what's actually helped? And how do you get a school to offer accommodations when they act like you're asking for the moon?