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kavya~
1mo ago in First steps & introductions
My kid got diagnosed but won't talk about it
My 12yo got diagnosed with autism. They refuse to acknowledge it, call it stupid, say everyone's a little autistic. I'm not forcing it but the denial worries me. They have the diagnosis. They're not accepting it. Now…
nikhil~
1mo ago in First steps & introductions
Diagnosis was a relief but my parents are grieving
They reacted to my diagnosis like I told them I was dying. They're sad, angry, mourning the 'normal' child they thought they had. Meanwhile I'm just feeling... seen for the first time. My clarity is their tragedy. How…
eli~
1mo ago in First steps & introductions
First post — late-diagnosed at 39 and still digesting it
Just here to say hi. Got an autism + ADHD diagnosis last month. The relief and grief are showing up at the same time and I don't quite know what to do with that.
tara~
1mo ago in First steps & introductions
Everyone's telling me to 'embrace neurodiversity' but I'm just scared
I've read all the 'ADHD is a superpower' posts. Cool. I'm still terrified about what my future looks like, whether I can hold a job, whether anyone will love me. Acceptance feels far away when survival feels uncertain.…
kavya~
1mo ago in First steps & introductions
My diagnosis has become my entire identity
Six months post-diagnosis and I've joined every ADHD group, read every book, reorganized my life around accommodations. I'm grateful but also—when do I stop being 'the ADHD person' and just be me? I swapped one box…
nikhil~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
The therapist I found is hopeless
Diagnosis psych was great. Referred me to 'an ADHD specialist' to help with next steps. This therapist has no idea about ADHD, keeps trying to analyze my childhood, and dismisses my diagnosis as 'a label.' I thought…
nikhil~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
I was diagnosed but I don't feel different
Officially ADHD. I expected some revelation. But I wake up and feel exactly the same. All those struggles are still there. The diagnosis alone didn't fix anything. I thought knowing would change everything. It didn't.…
eli~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
My spouse still doesn't believe it's real
I have a diagnosis. My spouse thinks I'm making it an excuse. This is creating a chasm in our marriage. They think if I try harder or stop 'using ADHD' as a crutch, I'd be fine. I have proof. They have doubt. We're…
eli~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
My kid got diagnosed and everyone's suddenly an expert
We went public with our kid's ADHD diagnosis (had to for school accommodations). Now random people give unsolicited advice: 'You should try this diet,' 'My nephew's cousin was cured with yoga,' 'You're medicating your…
tara~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
The diagnosis confirmed my deepest fear
I always knew something was 'wrong' with me. The diagnosis just made it official. Now I have proof I'm not normal, and that's both validating and devastating. Knowing is better than not knowing. But it's also lonelier.…
aarti~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
Nobody warned me about post-diagnosis depression
Got diagnosed ADHD at 30. First week was relief. By week 3, I was depressed. Grieving all the ways this affected my life before I knew. Is this normal? The clarity feels like opening a wound. Did you experience…
kavya~
2mo ago in First steps & introductions
Should we test our other child?
Older kid diagnosed with autism. Younger one is 'fine' but shows some similar traits. Do we get them tested or let them be? Are we creating labels unnecessarily? One diagnosis feels like opening a door to finding…