Gentle scripts for telling extended family

You don't owe anyone a debate about your child. These lines let you share what you choose to share and close the topic when it stops being useful.

Opening line

We've learned something about how [child] is wired, and it's helped us support them better. I'm telling you because you love them — not because I'm looking for opinions on it.

When you hear 'they'll grow out of it' or 'back in my day…'

I know it's new language. The support is what's changed things for us, and that's what I need backed up — not the diagnosis re-litigated.

Setting a boundary

I'm not going to keep defending this. You don't have to fully understand it to be kind about it. That part isn't optional.