ArticleTeachers & therapists
How to deliver hard observations gently
Frameworks for telling families what you've noticed without setting off alarm.
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Families remember how news was delivered for years. You can share a real concern without it landing as a verdict.
A structure that lands
- Open with genuine warmth and a strength you've actually seen.
- Describe the specific, observable thing — not an interpretation or label.
- Invite their view: 'Does this match what you see at home?'
- Move to 'what might help,' together, rather than 'what's wrong.'
Avoid diagnosing from the front of the room. Your job is to describe what you observe and open a door — not to name a condition.
'I've noticed…' invites partnership. 'I think your child has…' invites defensiveness. Choose the first.