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IEP meeting prep: a 20-minute walkthrough
A pre-meeting checklist, a talking-point worksheet, and what to do if it goes sideways.
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Walking in prepared changes the whole tone. You don't need to be a lawyer — you need three priorities and a calm way to ask for them.
Before the meeting
- Re-read the latest report; mark 2–3 things you most want addressed.
- Write your top three priorities in one sentence each.
- Ask for the draft IEP in advance — you're entitled to read before you sign.
- Bring one specific example of each concern (a photo, a note, a quote).
In the room
- Start by naming a shared goal: 'We all want them to have a good year.'
- Ask 'What will this look like day to day?' for every accommodation.
- If something's vague, ask for it in writing with a who and a when.
If it goes sideways
You can pause. Say: 'I'd like to think about this and continue another day.' You never have to sign at the table. Request everything discussed in writing before you agree.
Disagreement is documented in the record. A polite 'I don't agree, and here's why' is a normal, powerful sentence.