ScriptND adults
Coming out as ND to friends and family
Scripts, FAQs, and how to handle disbelief.
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You decide who, when, and how much. Telling people is for your benefit, not theirs — so share on terms that serve you.
A simple opener
I've learned something about myself that explains a lot: I'm autistic / ADHD. I'm telling you because you matter to me, not because I need you to do anything.
When you hear 'but you don't seem…'
That's masking — it costs me a lot, and it's part of why I'm sharing this. You've been seeing the effort, not the ease.
Setting the boundary
You don't have to fully get it. I'm asking for openness, not a verdict.
Some people surprise you for the better; some won't get there. Lead with the ones who can hold it.