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leah~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
12yo just got an autism diagnosis — how do we tell extended family without it becoming A Whole Thing?
We're solid. He's solid. The diagnosis gave us a road map. But my MIL is going to ask 30 questions and start sending articles. Looking for scripts that work.
noor~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen used to love learning and now hates school
ADHD teen thrived in elementary (looser structure, play-based). Middle school (rigid, fast, complex social scene, abstract learning) = shutdown. They went from excited to 'I hate school' in one year. Different…
noor~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen wants ADHD diagnosis but I'm skeptical
They self-diagnosed online. We got tested; turns out they're right. But I'm struggling with: is this real or TikTok trends? Am I medicating normal teen struggle? Teen knows themselves. Parent doubt creates…
priya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen's mood swings have me terrified
ADHD/autism + puberty hormones = mood dysregulation that's scary. One moment fine, next moment rage or despair. I don't know if this is normal puberty or mental health crisis. Neurochemistry + hormones =…
kavya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
She masks at school but I can see her unraveling
My 7th grade daughter seems fine at school (teachers say she's great). But I see: anxiety about perceived social failures, exhaustion, perfectionism that's crushing, sensory sensitivity escalating. Girls are…
kavya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen is questioning their identity (and it's tied to neurodivergence)
ADHD teen realizing they might not be cisgender or straight. Identity questions + neurodivergence = complex. They're trying to understand who they are and whether neurodivergence affects it. Adolescence is identity…
maya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen won't do homework and everyone thinks it's laziness
Executive function challenges + homework demand = stand-off. Teen wants to pass, isn't lazy, literally cannot initiate and complete the work. Teachers see refusal. Neurodivergent struggle looks like defiance to people…
maya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
Study groups don't work for my ADHD teen
Everyone else studies in groups. My teen gets distracted, anxious, overstimulated. They study best alone with stimulation (fidgeting, music, movement). But this feels isolating and teachers question it. Different…
leah~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen is in romantic crisis and I have no script
They like someone. That person is 'busy.' My teen can't read the actual situation (are they interested? uninterested? slow-burn? over?). Anxiety is eating them alive and I have no framework to help. Romance and…
priya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
Teen wants to drop their accommodations because 'it makes them weird'. How do you talk about this?
Eighth-grader. Has used a fidget, extended time, and a quiet test space for two years. Now wants to opt out of all of it because of a comment a peer made. I don't want to override their voice but I also know they need…
priya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
Summer is hell—unstructured time breaks my teen
School structure holds them together. Summer (no school, no routine, open days) = dysregulation, screen addiction, mood crash. But every 'solution' I try is rejected. Lack of structure triggers dysfunction. How do you…
kavya~
1mo ago in Tweens & teens
My teen's diagnosis changes their college prospects and I'm grieving
Mild learning disability + ADHD. College will be hard. Competitive schools are closed. My grief about the ceiling this puts on their options is real, and I feel like a bad parent for grieving. Future changed by…